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Is Deceptive Sexuality Emotional Abuse? The Truth Betrayed Partners Need to Know
If you’re questioning whether what you’re experiencing is abuse, this article will help you understand the connection between sexual betrayal and emotional abuse, plus give you practical steps to get to safety. Living in an Intentionally Manipulated Reality Three years ago, when my husband told me he was a sex addict, I didn’t just discover…
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The Hidden Impact of Betrayal: Why Body Image Becomes a Battlefield (And How to Heal)
I want to share something that’s rarely discussed in betrayal trauma recovery: the devastating impact on our body image and self-worth. After discovering my husband’s 21-year addiction, I found myself in the darkest body image crisis of my life. If you’ve ever felt like your body suddenly wasn’t “enough” after betrayal, this post is for…
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You Get to Be Angry: How Women Can Use Their Rage to Heal From Betrayal
When Beth discovered her husband’s affair, she felt something she’d never experienced before: pure, white-hot rage. “I wanted to throw things, scream, and honestly, I wanted to hurt him the way he’d hurt me,” she admits. “But family, friends (even my pastor) kept telling me to calm down, to forgive, to move on. I felt…
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Behind the Headlines: Examining the Latest Attacks on Women’s Rights
In the midst of the whiplash-inducing governmental upheaval, it’s hard to focus on anything. Trump and his posse of right-wing, opportunistic misogynists are doing an excellent job of causing confusion. (Elon’s ears must be burning.) You really have to force yourself to take a moment—a pause with a nice deep breath—to wrap your head around…
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Digital Safety for Couples Recovering from Betrayal Trauma
I’m writing this because this is a topic that needs to be talked about more in the field of betrayal trauma due to sex and porn addiction. As part of their recovery, the betraying partner should always be trying to exhibit rigorous honesty with himself, with his partner, with his family, as well as with…
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Sexism in the Gym: From Manspreading to Mansplaining
I moved to Tucson with my husband in 2022. It was supposed to be a temporary stop before we shuffled off to Portugal to kiss the US goodbye. Two apartments and almost three years later, we were still there, working from home, running on the trails, and cross-training in our apartment gym. My Rocky Relationship…
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Healing from Betrayal Trauma During the Holidays
The ringing of sleigh bells doesn’t always signal holiday cheer for everyone. Holidays can be emotionally draining and retraumatizing for women who have been betrayed by their intimate partner. The pain can cut even more deeply if they have discovered that their partner is a sex and porn addict. If this sounds like you, I…
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Clean-faced Liberation or Distraction from Patriarchal Empowerment
A couple of weeks ago all of social media was ablaze with talk of Pamela Anderson and her brazen move to go clean-faced to Paris Fashion Week. I knew something wasn’t sitting well with me when I first caught wind of the public’s response, and that I might feel compelled to use my voice to…
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10 Initial Steps toward Betrayal Trauma Recovery
As anyone who has either listened to episode 4, season 1 of my podcast, I AM My Passion Project or read my article, “My Betrayal Story”, knows, I am a betrayal trauma survivor. On May 7, 2022, I discovered that my husband of twenty-one years had been cheating on me in a variety of ways…
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Betrayal Trauma: The Pain of Trickle-out Disclosures
As those of you who have listened to episode 4, season 1 of my podcast, I AM MY Passion Project, know, my husband, Noah, is a recovering sex and porn addict. Deciding to stay in a relationship with him was a huge decision. It’s been a long process of recovery for both of us, and…
