NoLo 2.0: Reflections on a Coupleship
In this episode, I’m joined by my husband Noah for an honest conversation about our journey of healing after betrayal. We know how rare it is to find examples of both the betrayer and the betrayed sharing their story together, and we hope this episode provides encouragement and insight for others navigating similar challenges.
We discuss the difficult realities of betrayal and addiction, the role of toxic shame, and how patriarchal systems contribute to harmful behaviors. We also share strategies for recovery, tips for healing through the holidays, and what it takes to move forward as individuals and as a couple.
Topics Covered:
- Where are we now and how did we get here?
- What made reconciliation possible for us.
- The practices and routines Noah is doing daily for his recovery.
- How toxic shame can get in the way of success.
- Tips for healing through the holidays.
- Managing addiction with co-occurring conditions.
Why This Episode Matters:
- It’s essential to shed light on the topic of sex and porn addiction in order to inspire change.
- By sharing our journey, we hope to show other couples that healing is possible—even after deep hurt.
Resources Mentioned:
Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft: https
“The Secret Sexual Basement” whitepaper by Omar Minwalla
Purchase: I Am Reclaiming Me: A Betrayed Partner’s Daily Practice Journal for Women by Lorna Nakell or Coupleship: Activity Cards for Reestablishing Connection after Sexual Betrayal.
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